What I wish I could get through to every woman who drinks too much…

What I wish I could get through to every woman who drinks too much…

Beautiful friend,

I was once you, struggling to manage it all.

Having kids, a career, pets, a house, a spouse, friends and family obligations, the list NEVER ENDS, never.

And through all of that I thought that it was normal to drink wine, sometimes to excessive amounts, amounts that would make me wake up in the middle of the night, sweating, heart racing, panic rising, mind racing.

Amounts that would make me miss a full weekend day because I needed to sleep and recover.

And I thought at the time it was ok. I would tell myself I wasn’t an alcoholic and that I could go a few days without drinking, sometimes even longer, so what was the big deal?
Everyone drinks. I work hard, I’m doing all the things, it’s not causing any problems… and yet..

… I HATED being hungover. I hated eating shit in the middle of the night. I hated gaining weight every weekend that I had been working hard to lose during the workweek. I hated feeling puffy and dehydrated and pissed off and anxious and overwhelmed.

And every time I would try to cut back or not drink during the week, I would fail, a lot, consistently over and over again.

STILL, I didn’t think it was a big deal.

But, now, I know what a big deal it was and is for way too many women. Too many women are right where I was, struggling alone, in silence, too scared to share they are struggling, too scared of the labels and shame, too scared they will lose their friends and family, too scared they will fail, too scared they won’t be fun anymore.

And what I want them to know is that there is a better way, a brighter, more fun, adventurous way to be in life than this.

I solved a 20 year drinking problem with life coaching. Life coaching helped me look at all areas of MY life, my relationships, my feelings, my worth, my rulebooks for how all the people should be, my health, my mind and so much more.

And when I looked at those things closer and stopped just ‘trying to not drink’ I saw the real reasons I was drinking so much and couldn’t seem to stop.

And when I looked at those reasons, I found solutions to fixing them. I learned how to tell myself a different story and then I got different results in my life.

And I looked at food and alcohol and my fears and I became brave and learned that I am capable even though it can feel scary.

And then I got so brave that I decided to stop drinking. I decided to get away from alcohol for a bit to see what would happen, and let just tell you, miracles happened.

I got clarity, I gained confidence, I started enjoying new things, things I never thought I would enjoy, like sunrises and birdsong and consistent exercise.

I started enjoying the process of getting to know myself and my triggers and patterns and what I enjoyed the most was seeing my old patterns and then interrupting them and learned new ways to deal with my triggers, stress, anger and overwhelm and how to have EVEN MORE fun without it.

And here’s an even bigger AH-HA… women have been lied to by our culture and society and the systems in which we live, work, learn, pray and play, eat, exercise, vacation, and read.

We have been sold a huge book of lies that we need alcohol. We are constantly marketed to by restaurants, airports, gyms, churches, schools, work, family, friends, yoga classes, social media, the alcohol makers themselves, movies, TV, radio, magazines, influencers, concerts venues, neighborhood potlucks and more that ALCOHOL = fun, sex, relaxation, being cool, a way to deal with motherhood, stress, your in-laws, being tired, bored, you need it to celebrate, amplify celebratory times, or just because the sky is blue and there is a warm breeze.

And I’m to tell you it’s a big fat fucking lie.

Alcohol is not the solution to ANY OF THAT. And the more you can see the pool of lies and marketing and money that the alcohol industry has you in, the more clarity you will have.

Alcohol is a drug. It’s addictive. And the worst part? When we try to stop, we feel like we have to explain ourselves, like we are the problem for wanting to break free from something that’s ruining lives every day.

Mothers miss their kids growing up because they numb out every night.

They miss living their full bright potential, to share their gifts with their families, to help their kids deal with difficult things, instead they just pass down the idea that alcohol is a necessity to live.

And I just have to tell you, from someone who loved wine so much that I got married in a boutique winery in Sonoma California, over-drinking and being stuck in that cycle is NOT LIVING. It’s being stuck in a lie that feels impossible to climb out of and it dilutes what you think is possible in your life and it harms relationships, it harms your health, it harms your mind and there is absolutely nothing good that comes from it. 

N O T H I N G.

And I think I really only saw this after I became really aware of how it was impacting my life.

In the end of my drinking story.. I had a stressful day at work and I came home, walked through the door, didn’t even put my things down, purse on shoulder, briefcase in hand, I opened the wine cabinet, grabbed a wine opener, pulled that cork out like the expert I was, POP! And then grabbed my pretty long stemmed wine glass that was meant for a nice red, dry wine, and poured myself a big glass, closed my eyes, took a big sip and AHHHH. 

I then took the bottle, the glass, and all my things and didn’t stop to say hello to my 3 kids, husband or pets, and went right upstairs to my bedroom, shut the door and locked it. I proceeded to sit on the floor, my back against a closet door and  talked on the phone to my best friend for an hour, I remember telling him that I was overwhelmed, but was feeling better having had the wine in me now.

When that call was over, I was properly numbed and felt like I could ‘handle things now.’ I opened the door of the bedroom and called out ‘Hello?’ there was no answer.

My husband had fed the kids, walked the dog and put everyone to bed.

I missed a full evening of my family and in that moment, I knew ‘this is not what I want.’

And so from there, I began a mission to figure out my shit.

I quit my job, I de-cluttered my home, I sought out resources, I watched inspirational documentaries on how people changed their lives.

And finally, I found life coaching.

I finally tackled my over-eating and over-drinking and healed myself.

I finally felt like I knew what I was doing. I saw the lies that our culture was shoving down my throat and not just about alcohol, about what a mom should be like and a wife and a daughter and a friend.

And I decided that I am done living by other peoples and our societies stupid fucking rules that don’t work for me and decided to do life MY WAY.

And fast forward, about 7 years later, I have helped thousands of women change their drinking, to stop over-drinking and start living.

And I’m here right now asking you if you want to do that too.

I can help you. I believe in you and your life matters, right now, today. I don’t want you to waste one more evening or night numbing out on your one and precious life.

I want to show you how you can unplug from our societies conditioning and rules around alcohol and being a woman.

I want to help unleash your biggest dreams and potential even if it’s just to feel better.

Take it from one overwhelmed, stressed out, mom, professional, wife, friend and more, I WISH I had received a message like this, so plain and simple, back then. I wish I had read or heard this exact message. I would have paid attention. I would have stopped and started questioning things more. I would have noticed the marketing and culture and societal influence. I would have then thought ‘maybe I don’t need to do this like this anymore.’ and then I would have stopped and I would have changed.

But I didn’t have someone telling me these things so blatantly. I had to go on a long hard journey to find out the truth. But you don’t have to. You can hear me right now and say YES to what I am offering you.. TO STOP OVER-DRINKING AND START LIVING, right now, TODAY.

The women that say yes, will go on a journey and never look back.

I know intimately the struggles that women face with alcohol and in the roles that they have. I’ve coached for hundreds if not thousands of hours. I’ve done countless hours of research and studying, read all the books, listened to all the podcasts.

IT DOESN’T GET BETTER, it just gets worse over time and the longer you go, the harder it will be. There will never be the right time or the right amount of money in your bank account.

It just doesn’t happen like that. There are only days and opportunities that come in front of you to either say YES or to say no.

The women who say no and will come up with excuses will see themselves in the same place, year after year.. Saying ‘maybe next time.’

This is next time. Right now. This is your chance. Don’t let it float on by.

Xo,

Angela Mascenik
Certified Stop Over-drinking Coach
Helping women figure out the right relationship with alcohol for them, since 2018.
Founder of the Stop Over-drinking and Start Living Podcast
Sober Retreat Host, currently enrolling for my next retreat!
Program creator of Stop Over-drinking and Start Living, Alive AF!, Say YES to Drinking Less, Wine Free Workweek, The Transformation Program, How to Feel and more.
Learn more at www.angelamascenik.com

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